I feel like the past six weeks have been a lesson on how to communicate from a place of love, rather than fear or anger. I’ve gotten into a couple of debates about a certain presidential candidate. Normally, I would know better – since debates nowadays are basically pointless – but it is SO upsetting to see how badly people are being treated and to witness so many others gladly joining in. I have gotten to a place where I no longer care what people think of my beliefs, however these situations have had me speaking my truth and standing up for the injustices in a not-so-pleasant way. I have lowered my vibration, rather than communicate in a way that raises theirs. It is extremely hard to do because I feel so much for the human beings that continue to be belittled, chastised and bullied.
I ask myself, how is it OK in their minds to treat other people like they are nothing? It makes me feel like I need to do everything in my power to change their perspective to one of love and acceptance. Like I have to help them and show them that there is a kinder way to live and that their fears are irrational. However, engaging in the negativity only further cements their stance. When you threaten someone who is completely identifying with their ego, it no longer becomes about what is being said – it becomes about them being right (usually at all costs). Even lately in day-to-day conversations it seems others are more interested in putting you down and proving you wrong than actually engaging in a useful conversation.
I know now that is it not my job to “fix” them. They are responsible for their own soul’s journey. As much as I want to help, the most I can do is stay peaceful and positive. I have been able to be accountable and state my side in a more respectful way, however, if I am in a situation where that is not being reciprocated – I now choose to walk away or remove myself from it. Sometimes non-response is the best option. Focus on the positive difference you can make.
I will leave you with this Sufi saying:
Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates.
At the first gate, ask yourself ‘Is it true?’
At the second gate ask, ‘Is it necessary?’
At the third gate ask, ‘Is it kind?’