I think we have gotten too quick to label discernment as judgement. It is not about judging someone, it is about discerning right from wrong. There is a big difference.
A quick Google search will give the definition of discernment as “the ability to judge well.”
Judgement does not always have to be negative. I can absolutely hold compassion for someone and what they have been through, and in the same respect let them know which behaviors are not acceptable to me. Hate, aggressiveness, sarcasm, verbal and/or physical abuse are not behaviors I hold space for.
It is important to maintain those boundaries with others. If someone is not willing to meet me there, I will choose to protect myself. I intend to take care of my well-being. I love and respect myself enough to commit to that.
Hold space for YOUR truth, and let that be your expression in life.