As far back as I can remember, the way I relate to other people has always felt different. To me, when I look or talk to someone the most resonating aspect is their spirit. Not their hair color, or age, or job title – but the energy of their spirit. I can feel whether it is joyful and vibrant, or consumed with fear and sadness. This sensitivity has always made it easy to just know if a new person was someone I wanted to be close to, or stay very far away from. It has also made it somewhat difficult to function in the “real world”. For example, I spent 8 years working in the corporate world. Many people I have encountered base themselves on their job title and the presumed status it provides them. Then comes little old me who does not resonate with the fact that your title denotes any level of authority, rather that it is just words on paper (but really, isn’t it?). In addition, I was determined to awaken them to the new-age concept of a collaborative work environment where everyone operates on equal footing. Now, I assume you can imagine the type of problems that caused for me. Ultimately, becoming aware of how I relate to others has been life changing and has put a lot of things from my past in perspective.
This brings me to the point of distinguishing between a person’s Soul Personality and their Ego Personality. A person’s Soul Personality is the core of who they are and operates out of love. It is motivated by internal forces such as spiritual growth and a connectedness to all beings. Alternatively, a person’s Ego Personality is who they are on the surface and operates out of fear and insecurity. It is motivated by external forces such as money, power or status. The energy of someone’s spirit is ultimately whichever personality is strongest in them at a certain point in time. For example, the joyful and vibrant spirit I mentioned earlier would denote someone as being more connected to their Soul Personality in that moment.
This came to a head recently when I was in a social setting. I witnessed someone be so loving to their daughter, then a couple of hours later turn around and say some very degrading things about women (and be 100% serious about it). It left me so confused – how can someone show so much love and compassion towards a woman one moment and then show so much hate and contempt towards them in the next? Not to mention, how could they not see how connected those two moments actually were? I realized that in the moment with their daughter, it was apparent they were operating from their Soul Personality and in the later moment their Ego Personality crept in. Yet they were completely unaware that was happening, and I felt powerless to help them see that.
At the end of the day, I believe that we all have both the Soul and Ego Personalities present within us, and it is up to us which one we choose to express. Although the presence of both is needed to function in society, I am determined to operate primarily from my Soul Personality – and show others that they too can make that choice.