Why we don’t always have to “Stay Positive!”

There is a lot of talk surrounding positivity and the how important it is to “Always stay positive!” I think an important point sometimes gets lost in this message. Being positive does not mean dismissing that which is negbeing-positive-does-not-mean-dismissing-that-which-is-negativeative. It does not mean we ignore or stuff down negative feelings in an attempt to remain positive. It also does not mean that we ignore injustice.

To put this into context – I recently saw an online post about working at a local establishment. It suggested that most employees were underpaid, overworked, and even exposed to sexual harassment. As predicted, a post came about a couple of days later to counter what was said. The new post exclaimed how the establishment was a great place to work and at the very end suggested that we “Stay Positive.”

This is a perfect example showing how we often miss the point on what it means to be positive.

Truly being positive means we are able to allow negative emotions and feelings to flow through us without judgement; knowing there will always be more. To release and work through them as they arise. And to not dwell in that negative feeling.

We can absolutely raise an issue in an attempt of resolution without it being negative.

It is only after working through the negativity that we are truly able to focus our attention on the positive. It is in those moments where we are truly free of our burdens and radiating an energy that attracts more good into our lives.

Do not be fooled into living in this delusion of positivity. Life is a duality – yin and yang, positive and negative.

We need to embrace ourselves and life’s events in their entirety.


4 thoughts on “Why we don’t always have to “Stay Positive!””

  • 1
    Judy Grady on October 4, 2016 Reply

    Well said!!! I hope you are working on that book!! You have a special gift of expression! I wish I did!

    • 2
      Jennifer Ann Jeffer on October 4, 2016 Reply

      Thanks! No book yet 😉

  • 3
    Mom on October 4, 2016 Reply

    I embrace the negative as a learning tool….

    • 4
      Jennifer Ann Jeffer on October 4, 2016 Reply

      Yes! How else would we learn to do better?

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